manajemen BK

Personalized responses are always formulaled from the helpees’ frames of reference. They acknowledge the helpees’ experiences of the world  and build upon those expriences. Just as we formulated personalized meaning responses to individual helpee expressions, we also helpees’ expressions made over a periode of time.

            We do this by looking for the common themes in the helpees’ expressions. The themes realate to what the helpees are saying abaout themselves. The common themes are derived fromm the expressions. When one common theme stands out above others because of fecurrence of instensity, we may call it adominant theme. In responding to the common or dominant theme. In responding to the common or dominant theme, we may use the format.

You feel       because things are always                                      “

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The common themes may be personalized by internalizing the helpees experiences. So often we find that helpees are talking abaout third persona-other friends students, teachers, spouses, parents. Children-about whom we can do nothing directly. By concentrating upon others, the helpees are externalizing their experiences. By internalizing their experiences, we concantrate, we cocentrate upon the helpess.

In responding to meaning, we used the format, “you fell        because        “ now we internalize the meaning by introducing the helpees into the response: you feel           becaouse you             for example, we may internalize our expriences concerning bre       akdowns in communications with our teachers or in performance of his lost opportunity, we may have rersponded: “you feel furious becaouse they cheated you out of a real chance. “now we may internalize the meaning by internalizing the experience for the helpee.

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            the key intredient in personalizing meaning is considering the personal implications for the helpees. We do the helpees. Put another why, we ask how their expriences impacted them. We are looking at the consequences of their experiences for the helpees.

            In personalizing the meaning, we may use the format “you    feel                   because you always             “ thus, for example, we may personalize implications for any living, learning and working experience. Alter  asking the personal implications question, we may make a personalized response to our helpee’s experience of a lost opportunity.

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